Weight, Codependency, Women, and the Ohio Cult Problem

A "Weighty" Topic

In the Ohio cult, females who are overweight are abused. Overweight is a natural state for people who have been abused, and use food as a 'comfort'. Being stick thin is not a natural state for normal women, yet crooks want victims to believe that it is. This is not to criticize people who are naturally thin by genetics, but this doesn't include everyone. The only way that women, who are not genetically thin can maintain this is to be obsessive about their weight, use drugs, or be mentally ill (anorexic). In this "Limited Companies" area, many of the women are stick thin, with high strung, hyperactive personalities, which they consider normal. Then, women who are not stick thin and are normal are abused because of the mental illness and personality disorders or these obsessive, overcontrolling, perfectionistic narcisstic bitches. I think that many of these people "could be" salvagable if they change their focus from pettiness to a more global outlook. This would be something like trying to pay attention to the kinds of things that relate to the community or business as a whole, instead of imposing themselves like vultures on a victim, to try to overcontrol them. I think that part of the mental illness of anorexia is this overcontrol and obsessiveness. All of this pettiness creates a hostile work environment and these are the people who should be referred to counseling to reframe their thinking and readjust their thought process including myself. At this time - I am angry still thanks to the extreme abuse I went through but will overcome this to be able to move forward. This was because at the time I worked hard to lose weight I always had carried and was proud of the fact that I was in the career I had chosen when the diseaster seemed to happen to cause me to be depressed, hopeless, and stuck again. I had also suffered from depression most of my life and was proud of the fact that I was pulling away from this "victim mode"but in this gangland world victims carry this burden of being early victims all of their lives.

The other problem is that society teaches us that women who are not stick thin are unattractive. I think that someone was trying to illustrate that women do not have to be stick thin to be attractive and did this by creating the "plus size" model "Anna Nicole Smith". Unfortunately, crooks pulvarized this poor woman and and created an image of her as some kind of airhead, out of spite, and made her look like a reincarnation of "Marilyn Monroe" with another name.

I think that it is natural to compare oneself to other people, not pathological. Personally, my weight has gone up and down, and the only way I can maintain a large weight loss for a long period of time is to be obsessive about this. This is a game, because if I am thinking about this, then I am not thinking about other, more important things because my focus is "self centered" as opposed to being "other centered". In addition to this "weight" area, some of the female abusers are such perfectionists that they not only beat themselves up constantly for minor things, but also do the same thing to victims, and then abuse the victims again if they do not have a codependent reaction to all of this. This is absurd!!!

October 13, 2002

I am trying to find a support group, or resource, that deals with an issue that seemes to affect many women in this area of "Weight and Codependency", but so far have been unsuccessful. What I am seeking is a group or expert that deals with the topic as it relates to real women, because I have found in this cult that there seems to be a specific group of misogynists who don't like, or who are threatened by attractive women or by women in general. I am an average looking woman, but encountered problem myself via weight loss and weight gain. For some reason, in this cult or gang in Ohio, there is a group of people who will abuse a women who is thin and healthier but will be more accepting of a woman if she is overweight. This is a huge problem, because weight loss is healthy, puts people in a healthier state, and is desirable (although not attainable for everyone), but for some reason, this is a threat to both some men and some women in cult. The thing that seems to go with this is this oversexualization of females. The same woman can be seen as "gifted, intelligent, and wonderful" at a higher weight, but if she loses weight and gets healthier, she becomes a "slut, whore, show-off, and stupid", and a target for rapists and abusers. This fosters a great deal of codepependency. I have seen the same kind of abuse happen to other women besides myself. I think that this should be a topic added to "codependency meetings", in particular those dealing with woman's issues, because I don't see the major part of society, or the perpetrators doing this, as changing so this is an area where the "victim" needs to learn some adaptation tools. I think that some men have also encountered this, but because this "weight" issue seems to affect more women than men, I see females as the target group for this type of support/assistance. This is also another one of those no-win situations that many people encounter and feel hopeless while in 'the grasp of', because no matter what the victim does insofar as weight, it is always the wrong thing.